Catchy title huh? …I guess it means I am trying to walk and keep my balance on the “high wire” between being “mom” and “me”. It has been a trying few days. Teens can be a bit trying on their own, but teens that are adopted, or have experienced loss of a parent, and have come to us at ages that they have already developed their personalities and characters and have gone through loss and tragedy can be particularly tedious at best at times. So to try to balance the needs of these kiddos and my basic need of sanity I work on my crochet and do other things I enjoy. To try to give each day something pleasant that I can look back on the day and say, “This one was a toughie, but at the end of it, I did accomplish such and such, and so and so was pleased with me today.”
You know maybe the best part of having 20 children other than the great number of grandbabies we may have, is the fact that at the end of each day SOMEONE still likes me. I mean I can’t possibly, as a mother, alienate all 20 children in one day! So no matter what happens in our current home of 4 teens, There is still a chance that I will get pleasant phone calls and visits each day, from some of the adult children that have since moved past the teen stage into adulthood and have found that Mom is pretty bright and they have gratitude for the manner in which they were raised and the overall knowledge that they actually use what they were taught. When as teens they thought it was all hooey, just as these last four think.
So in the midst of the chaos of raising teens, I am also still working on the wire crochet projects. I have not completed a project yet, but here is a necklace I am currently working on. The pattern is still the daisy drop earring pattern I gave you the link to a couple of weeks ago. I just didn’t add the drop and I am linking the daisies into a necklace.
I am using copper wire and actual turquoise beads that I have on hand. I chose copper for the obvious reason…price. I would use silver but I am still learning the techniques so until I get better copper is a more financially sound decision. And if my project works out copper and turquoise jewelry can make a nice gift.
You will see in this next picture I have a crocheted butterfly. I used the crochet thread size 3 for this one. I was doing some research to make a wire crochet butterfly. I searched the internet for just the right pattern; the link is in my resources. The pattern could not be the usually fold over crochet butterfly wire would not work well for that pattern. The pattern needed to be an appliqué type, but not too intricate, too many bends and the wire breaks, this pattern will be just right I think.
I made it first out of crochet tread so I could learn the stitches and see how the process works before I did it in wire and made lots of mistakes. The new stitches in this pattern for me were the”picot” and the double treble (Dtr).
So to all you adoptive and step-moms out there who like me, deal with the challenges that come with these children, don’t despair get out your crochet hooks, recipes, sewing machines, paint brushes or poetry books, genealogy, go to school, etc. and “work the wire” with me. Find the balance to be “mom” and “you”. Because at the end of it all the kids are going to grow up and go out into the world and you will still have you. Take the time to develop you and be of value to your fellow-man. It will make you smile!